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Secret #4.}
Saturday, January 29, 2011 | 1:45 PM | 0Comment

Something I'm starting to realize about myself is that I have trust issues.

Don't get me wrong, the people I'm closest with, like Best Friend Rose and my parents, I can trust them with my entire life. I know that they will always understand me and be there for me, and there's never a question in my mind that they would. It's just everyone else that I'm weird about.

I've come to realize that I'm one of those people that, if anything, prefers to be alone.

That's not to say that I hate everyone and society and so on. I don't hate leaving the house, I don't hate interacting with people. I just don't mind--and in some specific cases, I prefer--being alone.

I think this is because I'm an only child. I've always been used to the quiet and peaceful side of things, like being alone brings. And when I was a kid, that may have been a huge factor in my being extremely shy. I went to Pre-K in between Preschool and Kindergarten not because I had trouble learning, but because I was so shy.

And I'm definitely not even close as shy as I was before, but sometimes this comes back at the strangest times. Like during testing last year, when I had to go to a local meeting hall to take the tests with all the other online school kids in my area, it was the weirdest thing.

As soon as I showed up that first day, I just shut down. Not 'shut down' like bursting into tears or snapping or anything like that, but I just threw this HUGE wall up. I didn't look at anybody. I didn't smile once (except for at my English teacher) or talk to anybody. I brought my book for break times in-between tests, and during breaks, I went off to a seat in the corner of the room, shoved my book up to my nose and read in the corner by myself.

And I was surprised by my behavior myself, completely surprised, because I've never been that kind of person. Even as a kid, I would still walk up to someone and try to make a new friend. But this was something new entirely. I just folded into myself did everything I could to keep everyone out.

Thankfully, though, by the end of that day, me and this girl named Rene* started talking, by chance, and we hung out for the rest of testing. I still talk to her sometimes, she's cool (and she got kicked out of her last school for beating up the popular girl for teasing her. Not going to lie, I liked her a lot more after she told me that.)

But even in other situations, there are times where I'm near someone new and I'll just sit there, guarded, unfriendly. It's so unlike me, and I don't know where it comes from, but I can't control it.

I guess it's a defense mechanism. I think I'm afraid of being disappointed, so I decide that it would be easier to scare people off than to let them in and let them affect me. It's cowardly and selfish, but I don't know how to fix it.

And during the beginning of sophomore year, when I was still getting used to being in online school, there would be times where I would just be so sad. I'd get up in the morning and do my school work and go through the motions, and I would talk to my parents maybe 2 times the entire day, because I'd just stay in my room and stay inside myself and stare out the window and feel sorry for myself.

Pathetic? Yes. But I didn't know how else to handle it. I was just alone, alone alone, and I didn't know how to deal with it.

On one hand, I'm thankful for it because it took that for me to realize who my true friends were and who were just the people I saw everyday at school.
On the other hand, it took that for me to realize that I really had no life outside of school, and that friends from school were just that, friends from school.

Lately I've been doing much better with this whole trusting people thing, and mostly when I think of instances of stuff like this happening, it was in the past. I think it's gotten better because I'm a lot more secure in myself than I was.

I just have to remember that yes, the world can be scary, and there are bad people in this world, but there are good people too. And even when the good people royally screw up(they're only human after all) and they disappoint you, just get back up and move on. It'll still be okay.

xo Hopeless Romantic

(PS: Resolution #1 isn't going so well so far, but it's only because of unfortunate event after unfortunate event. Last weekend it was catch up work, and this weekend it's because of a nasty cold my dad gave to me (my first cold in two years! Karma caught up to me?) and a cold sore on my lip the size of Mt. Olympus. Writing this in bed as I speak. Gross colds are gross.)

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Jazz.}
Monday, January 10, 2011 | 4:51 PM | 0Comment

Internet, so far, my 2011 has been fine. Kind of busy, but fine.

This was this whole school mishap where my schedule was set up so I had two other finals last week for some reason. I had done some finals before break, like I had said, but I guess I had a few more for after break too. It's kind of hard to explain, sorry.
But long story short, I had a few more finals to do last week, and they were pretty brutal. Especially for having to do them right after break, a time when my brain turns to mush. For my Chemistry final, I was up until 11:30 finishing it, and while I didn't fail it, I didn't pass it with flying colors either. That was pretty upsetting, but I bounced back okay and did great on the rest of them, so I can't complain. Plus, for Chemistry, I had a B+ for the semester, so it's not like I failed the class. It's all good.

So, besides school, I've spent time with both Best Friend Rose and Jazz. Rosie's all better (yay!) and still madly in love with Gene. Have I talked about that here? I don't think I've talked about that on here!
WELL. Long story short AGAIN, Rosie and Gene were super close friends for like a year, then some deep stuff happened, a huge confession came out on Gene's part about two months ago, and now they're together! And they're pretty much the most amazing couple I've ever seen. Not all fake and flashing it around in people's faces, like what seems to be the popular thing to do with relationships in High School. They're best friends.

Every time I think about it, it makes me want to cry, because Rosie deserves it, and she's needed this for a long time now. Out of everyone I've ever met, if anyone were to deserve this, it would be her.
Plus, Gene is just freaking awesome, and we were all friends to begin with, so I'm very happy for them. Very very happy.

And as for Jazz, well. Things with her are...I don't know.
I actually had a sleepover with her the day before New Year's Eve, and things were just like normal and we had a movie marathon, and it was great. Until the next day.

But here's some catch up, Internet. Lately, little things about Jazz are bugging me. Not necessarily her, but things she does.
Example 1: She's one of those people that say things like, "We should hang out more!" or "I never see you anymore!" but they don't actually do anything to fix it. Normally that's okay, but when you're me, and you have only two best friends, and you don't have a license yet, one should usually just assume that you're not very busy. Right?
And Jazz is the exact opposite of that. She's the vice captain of this club, she has this practice every other day, she has to go to this meeting, she's volunteering for this every other weekend, she's hanging out with these people after school, she's going to so-and-so's house for some/multiple reasons, MY GOD. The woman has the busiest schedule I've ever seen. I mean, everyone has sport practices and previous plans, but at this level, it's impossible for me to know when she's free.
So when she says, "You should tell me when you want to hang out!" and then I do, and every time she says she's busy, I'm understandably going to get a bit irked at some point and just stop trying. And sometimes I feel that instead of being one of her best friends, I'm just an option at this point.

Example 2: She can be very condescending. Not in the immediately noticeable way, but in the subtle, back-handed comment kind of way. I don't know if she means to, but she is. For a few examples, sometimes when we have conversations, she'll act like I'm dumb. Sometimes when I talk, like I've said before, sometimes I mix up words, or pause while I'm talking to make sure I'm clearly portraying what I want to say. (That may come from my huge shy phase in Elementary school.) So when I do this while I talk to her, she'll get this exasperated/amused look on her face, like, 'Oh. Poor Sarah doesn't know what she's doing again.' And not just when we're talking either. When we're out in public, and I do something awkward (which, trust me, is inevitable.) she'll give me the same look, and she looks embarrassed to be around me.

And even though I'm nearly two years older than her (i.e., I turn 18 in March, and she's currently 16), she treats me like a child that can't do anything for themselves. This motherly aspect is part of her personality, and I appreciate the thought, but to be honest it's getting old. For example, she acts like just because I'm in online school now, it means that I'm this huge hermit who's withering away and getting gray hair and growing 2 foot long fingernails and doesn't remember what the sun looks like. At first I really appreciated her concern, and it was at a time when I still wasn't completely fine with the idea of online school, and I somewhat agreed with her. But now, about a year and a half later, it's annoying. A lot. I'm perfectly fine with everything now(I get out a TON more normally than I used to, say, this time last year), and I actually appreciate and enjoy being in online school now. And so all those comments like, "You need to get out of the house!" and "When was the last time you left the house? It's not healthy!" kind of make me want to punch her in the face. Just a little bit.

Example 3: I'm apparently guilty by association for still being friends with Johnny. Ever since her and Johnny 'officially' ended their friendship after their awkward break up, she acts like I'm 'one of them' now, like she doesn't even know me, like me and Johnny are like BFFs or something. Which doesn't even make sense because 1) I haven't even spoke to Johnny since the last football game and 2) he didn't even reply to my Merry Christmas text which was PRETTY RUDE, if you ask me. And if you ask me, someone who was your BFF would have answered your text or would have at LEAST been on your forward list.

So I don't know why she's all weird about it. And every time he comes up in conversation, so says something like, "Oh yeah, that's right, he's YOUR FRIEND," and then she changes the subject all quickly and weirdly, even though I was just fine with it.

And so. Even though when she came over, it was fun (although with the occasional back-handed comment, like when we were taking pictures and I asked her jokingly, 'Why is my face so awkward?' and she replied completely straight-faced, 'Your face isn't THAT awkward.' Gee. Thanks.), the next day, on New Year's Eve, there was a HUGE snowstorm where I live. It snowed the entire day, and all the roads were ridiculous, so Jazz said that she'd probably just end up staying for another night because of the roads. I was really happy about it, and I told her a few times how excited I was that I'd get to spent New Years with her, especially since last year I spent it alone, and she seemed pretty excited about it too.

Then, out of nowhere, she just says, "Well, my dad will be here soon." Um. Okay? I waited for a "Sorry, he just wants me to be home," or a "I wish I could stay. Sorry!", but there wasn't one. Not explanation at all.

And that happening after I got all excited about doing New Years with her and telling her how excited I was about it more than once, I felt more than a little disappointed.
But that's not even the worst part.

Some time after she left, I found out that she went right from my house to someone else's house for New Years.

And the girl who's house she went to? She bugs the crap out of Jazz. And yet she would have rather left my house in a blizzard to travel to this chick's house for New Years than to stay with me.
I would have been fine with it if she had told me outright that she had previous plans, but the way she did it, it felt like a slap in the face.

So, yeah. I don't know. Jazz can be a really good friend sometimes, and other times she does stuff like this, and I wonder why I even put up with it. But I guess I'll just see.

Despite all of this, 2011 has been pretty good so far (if you don't count my Chem final madness). Tell me, Internet. How has yours been thus far?


xo Hopeless Romantic

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